This is one of the most difficult things for the teens in my practice to do. But much of the toxic “I’m not good enough” self-talk that weighs heavily on their hearts stems from comparison. This isn’t surprising–it’s actually developmentally “normal” for teens to compare themselves to peers as they construct their identities.
However, by the time we are adults we should be anchored in “who we are,” and comparing ourselves to others usually just creates unnecessary disappointment.
So, this week’s intention is to channel your inner Lion King and “remember who you are.”
Here are some ways to refocus on what makes you you:
Celebrate Your Strengths: Reflect on the personal talents, skills, and characteristics that make you uniquely capable.
Pursue Your Passions: Remind yourself of the things that interest and motivate you.
Honor Your Values: Recall the values you choose to live your life by.
Embrace Your Perspective: Consider how your life experiences have given you insights and a perspective no one else can replicate.
Together, these qualities form your unique blueprint for a life of meaning, purpose, and rich rewards.
Of course, the riches of your life will never look exactly like someone else’s—that’s the beauty of it. If you’re living in alignment with your values, using your strengths, and pursuing your dreams, you are on your path to fulfillment.
So, take stock of all the ways your life demonstrates who you are and what matters to you. Be inspired by others, if it lifts you up. But don’t let comparison steal your joy or diminish your sense of self-worth.
What is one thing you are proud of yourself for creating in your life? Share it or reflect on it today to remind yourself of how far you’ve come.